Desperately Seeking Anyone
Courting and dating as presently done around us, where young people meet together and have a intimate affair, spending time a lone “to get to know one another”, in a very passionate manner before deciding if that is the perfect person to settle with. Man in most societies is portrayed as the seeker of love or the giver of material for a relationship’s sake while the woman plays the receiver role for both. While the giving of love that is necessary for the survival of a relationship, acceptance of the same determines the true nature and course of the relationship, unless or until the man backs out and for which the woman is the key player. This is the reciprocal myth of love which has survived many ages and beliefs to retain its interpretation today. However, it should be noted that this understanding has continued to change especially after the second feminists wave that created imbalance in this old adage. Women call the shots when it comes to encounters with potential mates.
Dating is seen as a means of determining if partners are committed to a relationship and therefore should move romantic partners from non-committal to committed relationships. The process progresses from coming together, maintaining each other in the relationship and later, coming apart should the process not come to fruition. In this progression, it must pass through initiation, experimentation then to intensification and reach a turning point which can either be positive or negative. It is necessary as a first step for courtship that is needed in romance.
In many societies, dating is a very highly structural, almost artistic social activity and which follow near formal rules. Potential couples are given freer room for choice before continuing relationships. Men and women nowadays look for chances to ‘hook up’ or ‘hang out’ and incessantly moving away from the ‘old-fashioned’ dating for potential courtship.
Men are known to seek more partners at a time than women whereas the latter trade off their roles in the relationship for only the most potential and promising suitors based on their preferences. In sum, the most important preference is made at the first encounter at which the woman’s perception which constantly looks out for the stereotypical nice man decides whether the man is a jerk, nice or too nice and decides to formalize the relationship or just “hook up”. Thereafter as the relationship progresses, the social and biological traits of the man are evaluated for a possible long term relationship.
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