If You Failed To Save The Relationship – Are You Ready For Another Marriage?
As you endured the hurt caused by the breakup of your first marriage, getting into another relationship was possibly the furthermost from your mind. But time heals all wounds as they say. And when you meet another person that will make your heart beat faster again, you will recognize that you would like to give it another go and enter into another relationship.
However before you get married again, explore yourself and determine first if you are really ready for another marriage. A lot of self-examination is in order here as you do not want to make the same mistakes in your first marriage and go through the heart wrenching pain again if you go througlive through another breakup.
Turn back the hands of time and bring to mind the circumstances by which your first marriage cru and you were not able to save the relationship. Was it your lapse that the marriage crumbled? Were there things that you failed to do leading to the downfall of your first relationship? What triggered the relationship to fall apart? The breakup could not have happened all of a sudden; there must have been small circumstances that accumumlated up and led to the progressive downturn of the marriage. And when you evaluate your first marriage, be truthful with yourself. Be open and admit your errors. Did you not do enough in your first marriage and what was it that you failed to do that you were unable to save the relationship? It is only by having an genuine and open appraisal of what went wrong will you be able to specify things you have to do and things you have to avoid deterioration in a second marriage
And if you decide to get married again, do it for the correct reasons. We all know that being alone is not easy but plunging into marriage just because you are alone is not the right reason to do this. And second marriages can be more difficult. If the person you have chosen to marry or you have children, you are getting into a relationship not only with that person but with all people that come with him or her. And you must be mature enough to deal with this.
Are you and your new partner emotionally prepared to get married again? Have you, and your partner for that matter, rebounded from your respective divorces and are steady enough to surmount the new challenge that a new marriage will bring? Have you learned from mistakes in your first marriage? Are you both in an established financial state? Finances can be a major cause of trouble in a new marriage especially if there are children from your first marriages involved.
If you have reflected on the above question and are certain that you are actually prepared for a second marriage, sit down and have a heart to heart talk with your partner. It is basic that before you start a new marriage, you both are in the same frequency and both know what each is expecting from the other. Lay your cards on the table and be upfront. Let your partner how you feel and think and encourage your partner to open up to you too. Be in unison on specific aspects of the marriage, things like the children, your finances, and your whole arrangement. If you agree on these things early on, you prevent creating resentment later on in the relationship.
An as you start your life as a married couple, always keep in mind the mistakes that you have committed in your first marriage to keep you on your toes and avoid repeating these. And sustain the romance. Whatever the cause of the breakup of your first marriage, there must have been some point that you forgot all about the romance. In this your second marriage, try to keep the fires burning and constantly kindle the love and romance and make this new marriage a successful union. Get more save the relationship advice today.
Zeny Zabala is a relationship resource person who loves to write articles about marriage and relationships for individuals looking for help and inspiration in their relationships. She also provides reading recommendations on her web site with reviews on the best available reading resources on the internet today. Visit her website now.
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