Are You Playing this Social Game?
What is game? Game is a metaphor we used in dating to desensitize or objectify what we encounter out in the field so we won’t take it personally. And I got to tell you, it can be painful. There will be nights when you will regret having gone out than if you had stayed home and wish that you had stayed in your shell. What is this emotion? It can be depression, dissatisfaction, disappointment, embarrassment, failure, etc.
But this is a process, and if you ever want to master this game you have to experience those pains for they will be the learning experiences for you to take so you then can refine your social intuition and calibration. In fact, don’t even focus on these negative emotions for they will drain you and cause you to have a less objective reflection on your social performance. Reframe your all this in “what have I learned?”
So you are out in a bar and you approach a girl, you get the girl talking, you two are dancing having a good time and laughing, and you think to yourself, “Already, I have this chick now!” and spend the entire night only with her, then out of nowhere she pulls away and acts like she hasn’t met you. What happened? Instead of focusing on the negative emotions of failure or dissatisfaction, thank them for the lessens you have learned.
Perhaps you were too clinging and needy latching on to her the whole night and so will need to break off from her, or you were talking too much, or not contributing enough to the conversation. Whatever the reason, put your ego aside and reflect upon it to get the bigger picture, which is to better your skills in the long haul instead of banging yoru head against the wall over one little loss; that is how the game can bemastered.
Gabriel Angelo runs http://www.socialnatural.com, with the unique approach to dating and meeting women, by focusing on developing your “social skills” to be the most socially savvy person you can be, not just with women…but everybody. Although the arts are primarily related to dating and attracting women, they can be applied to other aspects of your life from social, dating, personal, and even professional.
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