Do you Need to have an Attractive Identity to Attract Girls?
Today, there is something I like to talk about that is hampering a lot of guys back from bettering their dating life. There are a lot of guys I know who aren’t good with women, and they make the excuse saying, “I need to build an attractive identity first before I can start meeting women.”
For me, I don’t just constrict myself to a single identity but have multi-identities I go by that different women would stereotype as attractive through my fashion and my hobbies and interests, but I still need to have strong “sociability” to back it up and still have to do the work to get the girl.
Sociability is your competence, skills, and mojos used in social interactions. Be honest with yourself, “Do you honestly think just having a strong identity is going to automatically make you good with women Having that strong identity is a label, which consciously grants you permission you act in a way to live up to that identity’s role, but that doesn’t mean you will perform that role effectively.
Just because you are given the title of a doctor, doesn’t necessary mean you are an effective doctor. In reality, it works the other way around. You were given the title of a doctor because you went through school and spent endless hours studying until you became really good at it.
The excuse of telling yourself that I only need to have a strong identity, then I can start deserving and get good with women is backfiring your success. Let go and let yourself get the girl. What you really need is to start taking action and acquire the skills, instead of waiting to claim that identity or for it to just accidentally fall into your lap. That is why it’s important to have the skills under your belt to reflect that identity…then you will effortlessly communicate that to the girls you’re trying to attract.
Gabriel Angelo runs http://www.socialnatural.com, with the unique approach to dating and meeting women, by focusing on developing your “social skills” to be the most socially savvy person you can be, not just with women…but everybody. Although the arts are primarily related to dating and attracting women, they can be applied to other aspects of your life from social, dating, personal, and even professional.
For more information, please visit http://www.socialnatural.com.
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