The Controversial Pickup Artist (PUA) Loophole

Some of the so-called “Pickup Artists” (or PUAs) out there who are skilled with women are not always the sort of people others would want to be friends and deal with.

What do I mean by this? Well, some of them present themselves as ego-clashing maniac and always trying to dominate 1-up the other person every time to show they are the most alpha dominant around in hope of trying to get a girl, like it is a war.

Here you have 2 lions in the same cage, they will battle each other to the death and won’t work together to help each other out.

This can create a dark one-sided, unhealthy obsession, and you will find your progression with women does not give you happiness.

I mean come on, just relax, it’s NOT just about getting the girls. It’s about enjoying the presence of others and meeting great people around you to enrich your life who will always back you up, and the girls will naturally appear in your life.

You can be the egotistic, self-professed most important guy in the world when you are out…but you know what? Nobody cares!

Everybody can try to show they are the controlling one in the room and the most alpha, but honestly, the thing is, nobody really cares how dominant you behave; in fact, they might even find it try hard. So why don’t you instead abandon your ego and allow the other person to feel speical and and their worth, and they will love you for it and you will be cool in their eyes, unlike those who are trying to prove something out in social environment where people just want to be social and have a good time?

You see, these aggressive demeanor were once used to get things we wanted back in our ancestral time, but they are outdated in our modern, more civilized world. There are more boundaries that restrict these barbaric behaviors (for instance the law, you can push it near the edge, but you can’t break it) so we have to be aware and socially savvy.

Yes, that is pretty much the first thing we all learn in improving our skills with women and our dating life is to be dominant, but what is dominance?

A lot of people lack the social calibration awareness to realize what they’re considered to t be dominant and confident actually come across as a control freak to being antagonistically aggressive.

A better way is to have what I called “the F.A. – Friendly Assertiveness”; you can still be dominant but without being so prestentacious, without making the other person on their guard and threatened.

I will dwell deeper into this in my next article, so not only can you use it whenever you are out attracting girls, but will also make you improve your leadership skills!

Gabriel Angelo runs http://www.socialnatural.com, with the unique approach to dating and meeting women, by focusing on developing your “social skills” to be the most socially savvy person you can be, not just with women…but everybody. Although the arts are primarily related to dating and attracting women, they can be applied to other aspects of your life from social, dating, personal, and even professional.

For more information, please visit http://www.socialnatural.com.

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