Simple Tips on How to Save Marriages from Divorce
You can never be brave enough to ask your partner what is wrong, when you know deep inside you that what he/she will say is: “I am not happy anymore”, “It isn’t working”, “I want out”, “I don’t love you anymore”, and “We married for the wrong reasons”. These will surely tear you apart. But don’t despair yet. There are still ways to win this battle. Here are simple tips on how to save a marriage from divorce.
Dig. Dig as deep as you can. Unearth deep seated problems that you might have taken for granted. Simple or little problems left unattended and unsolved that have escalated into something too big to get resolved by itself. This is something not easy to do because we tend to deny that something went wrong, it is even harder to do, if it is your fault, your marriage is on the brink of break up.
After digging really deep, be humble to accept your flaws and apologize. A very sincere apologetic heart will not go unnoticed to a forgiving heart. It will be perfect, if you match it with a warm, lingering kiss.
Remember the first one in your life together, the first kiss, first date, and everything that will bring back the time when you were still madly in love with each other. Reconnect again. Discover each other again. Time has brought changes; your partner may have changed a bit without you knowing it, because you were too busy. Take time to know him/her again. Learn to accept and love the change.
There is a perfect timing and perfect words for everything. Choose your words when you are upset about something. If you think you can’t find the right words, and then cool down first. Release the emotion somewhere. There is right timing for everything, just like you don’t try to fly a kite when there is no wind. Do not blurt out your disappointments on the dinner table or with guests around. Waiting for the right moment will allow you to think things over objectively. This will give you enough time to unwind and then approach your partner with more suitable state of mind.
Patience is a virtue. You won’t lose anything and in fact you will gain a lot by being patient. If you don’t have patience you will end up fighting over, even little things not worth an argument. Control your temper. Think how harsh your words could be, if you blurt them out while at the peak of the emotion. You wouldn’t want to hurt the person you vowed to love for the rest of your life, right?
There will be always differences between people, friends, couples and any other relationship. That, of course, means that we need to be tolerant and give others breathing space. So, when there are things you like and she does not, let her have it her way and in turn you will have certain things your way.
So, be tolerant and accept that we all are different in one way or another. Tolerance and compromise are virtues that certainly will make your relationship fuller and happier.
Mark is a relationship expert. For more information on
how to work on a marriage visit
http://www.savemarriagediscoverhow.com.
Processing your request, Please wait....
