LEARNING TO LAUGH WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE CRYING
losing
Losing a loved one is not easy. I know – I have had many losses in my life. The one that made the most impact on my life was my wife’s death when she was 34.
I don’t think we ever forget the people we lose. So in some sense, they are never gone. But, still, it hurts not to be able to see them, hear them, or hold them again.
Loss hurts. But it can also help us be stronger, wiser, and, if nothing else, more appreciative of every moment we have on this earth.
learning
Every time you lose something, you are presented with an opportunity to acquire something new. With each loss, there is a golden opportunity for a new beginning. You may not realize it right now, but your loss is part of your growth process. In fact, your loss can be seen as a gift.
How could you possibly even think of loss as a gift? You have lost someone who was very dear to you. You have perhaps lost the one person in your life that meant everything to you. You have lost a significant part of who you were. It certainly doesn’t feel like a gift.
And yet, it is.
Your loss is serving you. It is helping you examine who you are, why you are on this earth, and how to live your life.
letting go
Crying is the body’s way of dealing with loss. It is unhealthy to squelch your tears. At some point, you need to get on with your life.
Today might be the day to take the first step, to let go, to move on.
living
The loss of someone close to you provides an opportunity for a new beginning. Once you start to work through your grief, you can begin to fill the vacuum that was created by your loss with an even fuller sense of life.
Ultimately, in dealing with a loss, the choice is yours. You can remain in your grief and turn your face away from life or you can move on and embrace life. Choose life.
laughing
Laughter is a great coping mechanism. Finding the humor in anything and laughing about it gives you a break from the pain of loss. It allows for a breath of fresh air at a time when everything seems dark and heavy.
Many of the world’s top comedians intuitively knew this when they experienced a major loss in their life. They turned to humor to cope and eventually perfected their craft and made comedy their career.
Your goal is probably not to become a stand-up comic, but you can take a lesson from these renowned comedians and use humor and laughter to help you to cope with your loss.
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