Rock Star Jason Gerard Give His 5 Romance Tips For Saving Yourself From A Bad Relationship
“The history of mankind is replete with tales of love and love gone wrong. Without love gone awry, there can be no drama, no angst, and far less material for songwriters to work with!” says Jason Gerard, “The terrible relationship(s) I experienced gave me perspective on something that all people, and all music listeners, can relate to…the broken heart!”
If you are in a Bad Relationship or are getting over a Bad Breakup, then rocker Jason Gerard has committed himself to helping you. In this interview, Gerard provides 5 essential tips that anyone can use to help better themselves and their romantic lives. Here’s what he says:
”The background of my failed relationship is one not based on love and trust, but fear and insecurity. Both of us felt naively, that committing quickly to the relationship when we hardly knew each other well enough, would compensate for all the problems we were having; concerns as to whether our relationship would last or not, what others thought of us. Again, a relationship based on insecurities and fears, certainly not the stuff great relationships are made of.
My 5 Essential Tips on how to Free Yourself From a BAD RELATIONSHIP are:
1. Don’t get into a bad relationship in the first place! Trust your gut instinct. Does the person you’re committing a relationship to really love you? Do they have your best interest at heart? Do they treat you with respect? Are you with them because you truly enjoy their company and want to consider spending the rest of your life with them, or are you with them because you feel no one else will love you? Because you feel compelled by outside pressures (family, religion etc…) to be in a relationship/marriage? If you can’t answer the big question WHY? with the right answer, give the relationship a second thought before committing to it.
2. If you find yourself already mired in a terrible relationship, you must objectively assess just how bad the relationship is. Is your life being impacted in negative ways since starting the relationship? Loss of interest in friends, hobbies, spending time with family? Is your partner possibly controlling or abusive? It is far beyond the scope of this writing to deal with the issue of domestic abuse, professional help should be sought in such instances, but nonetheless, you should step back and see how your life compares pre/post relationship. It’s normal for compromises to be made in any relationship, but one should never give up who they are or what’s important to them to appease their partner.
3. Once the decision has been made (and it is not one to be made lightly), the degree of action should be determined by the severity of the relationship problems. Hopefully, most relationships can be ended on at least semi-amicable terms. The hardest problems faced in such break-ups is the feeling that you will never love, or be loved, in the same way again. That is actually a likely reality , and with hindsight is a good one. You don’t want to be ‘loved’ in the same way again by a hurtful, apathetic partner. You yourself want to grow and learn from the relationship, hoping not to repeat the same mistakes in the next relationship!
4. It’s the old cliche all over again, but you must remind yourself of your own value and worth to avoid falling into the trap of returning to the hurtful relationship, as is often the temptation in such situations (remember, if you are the one ending the relationship, the other party may attempt to make amends to continue the relationship and the all-too-well-know vicious circle), or to end up in another relationship equally or more terrible.
5. Always remember, time passes, things change. What is a hurtful experience today, is a distant memory tomorrow. Time heals most (all?) wounds and life goes on. What seem like a never ending agony today will be long forgotten tomorrow. There is always the silver lining. That is to be remembered of all things, not just relationships
My own experience in a terrible relationship was one of a roller coaster of emotions: will our love survive? Will we grow old together? Have stories to tell our grand kids? Will our relationship be fleeting? Just one of many I will have in my life? That kind of roller coaster of emotions can tear through the human heart in ways that can be near irreparable, but makes for great songwriting! I eventually arrived at the conclusions I needed to to end the terrible relationship and begin the healing process needed to move on with my life. I’m lucky because my songwriting served as great therapy, expressing all the intense emotions I wanted to in the relationship but couldn’t because of the lack of communication that caused the relationship to fall apart in the first place. My magnum opus, When I Die, for example, expresses how the feelings I experienced, upon realizing the relationship I agonized over for so many years was finally over: would I ever truly move on and love another? Or would I live to my dying day pining away for the person who ultimately rejected my love? I hope you get the same emotional release from listening to the song When I Die as I did writing it.”
Jason Gerard also sought the help of friends and colleagues. His labelmates from the cult-followed band Monkeysoop were able to help him. “Jerry Connor and Erica Missey (Monkeysoop) helped shaped the ultimate sound of the songs by contributing the very talents they possess that has made their band so successful to my CD,” adds Gerard, “Namely, soaring, aggressive guitar leads, rolling bass lines and beautiful harmonic and backing vocals.”
YOU CAN LISTEN TO JASON GERARD’S NEW ALBUM FOR FREE AT:
http://www.we7.com/album/Jason-Gerard/You-Set-Me-Free?m=0
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Singer/songwriter, San Antonio native, and Winner of the SA Music Award for best male solo artist, Jason Gerard has a style that can best be described as new
wave meets alternative. Gerard was the co-founder of the punk band Egoteric, and contributing songwriter to the metal band Debbie Does Dahmer. Jason Gerard was discovererd by Celebrity Rock Icon Anand Bhatt who signed him to major record label Sonic Wave International, Jason Gerard’s new album ‘You Set Me Free’ is available through all major digital download sites (Amazon.com, iTunes, etc…).
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