What is the Best Way to Talk with Women?
Here we have you talking to a woman, and you start to think “How am I coming across to this girl?” “How do I soud to her?” “Should I talk faster to get her excited, or should I talk slower to draw her in and mesmerize her?”
Now this is where you put to use your social calibration radar my friend. Social calibration is tweaking your social performance for that particular situation for optimum result.
Think about what is your ideal outcome when you are chatting to the girl.
Would you speak in a calm and relaxed voice within a loud night club to get a group of girls’ attention with all the other stimuli competing to get girls’ attention?
Do psychologists ever talk in an energetic and fast paced tone to establish trust with their patients to get them toopen up?
Talk energetically if you want to get attention and people to focus on you.
Talk slowly and rhythmically if you are trying to build a deeper connection.
If you were in a night club conversing with a girl, start out being energetic and animated to keep her attention, and then progress to the calm and slow voice when you are trying to build that rapport.
Loud and energetic focuses the attention on you and make you memorable, but to carry that deeper into a rapport, go slow and paced.
fast and energetic = attention-grabbing and keeping spotlight on you (superficial)
slow and calm = profound and stronger impact/persuasive (deep)
If the interaction is already strongly focused on you, talk in a slow and rhythmic voice; however if there are possibility for distraction, revert back energetic and animated to keep the attention on you and to claim it back when you bein to lose them.
Some great illustrations are go on YouTube and watch some of Leonardo DiCaprio’s 1-on-1 interviews, take notes how articulate he talks and calm and controlled his voice is.
There isn’t any need to talk loud or energetic to grab any attention because there are no potential outside distractions and regardless though, he draws the audience in without trying.
If you don’t feel the need to talk energetically to grab the focus on you and communicate your point across, talk slowly. Talking fast-paced and energetic requires a lot more energy, it’s best to be resourceful with it.
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