Say Bye-bye to Women’s Flakes…Men Only
No, no, no, I’m not taking about the little white stuffs in your hair or the architectural structure of a beautiful tiny frozen water molecule under a microscope.
So there you see an absolutely drop-dead hottie right in front of you at 12 o’clock. BAM! You approach her. You head in with the courage of a bull, and she’s your redness you’re drawn to. You effortlessly get her contact info, and you’re so pleased of yourself and achieve an ignited warm-feeling that you accomplished it and give yourself a high-five.
Then you tried calling her, no answer.and no call back.
(a little later…) you text her, no reply.
A couple days later, still no reply. You text her once more, and again no reply.
The next day, still no reply.
What’s going on, fellow number-closer?
That’s right…those are flakes.
Ah yes, we all have received those from once in a while, and for those who boast they have never gotten flakes…well, they’re not trying hard enough, not approaching enough girls.
The word “flake” used in dating lingo refers to a lack of compliance follow-up, she does not comply with any of your request. Even if the number she gave you was valid, she will not necessary request to any of your post-phone follow-up.
Doesn’t have to be her not failing to show up on dates with you. It can be whatever involving “non-compliance follow-up” on her part.
Question is why do you get flaky numbers from women?
That’s because you failed to do your part to root for a solid number.
You know that emotion you get when a stranger’s handling out random flyers to you on the street that you could care less about, and you got one? That is how you will be seen in her eyes, another flyer, unless you make it memorable.
That is why on the first encounter you have to instill some sort of memorable impact to implant a story in her head to make you stand out. Especially if it is a random approach, forget the day-to-day superficial discussion, like “How’s your day?” “Terrible weather, huh?”…and then ask “Give me your number.”
For myself, for example, when I’m at a nightclub, I don’t really bother asking for a women’s number unless I already made out with her; that will create for me a higher compliance follow-up rate after the night is over because I have experienced in the past, if I meet a woman in a nightclub and only talk to her for a couple minutes and go for the number, it’s pointless, with all the things going around, alcohol in her system, and other random guys who probably get her numbers too, I’ll just be another random flyer that she passes that never crosses her mind again.
Not much of a memorable impression for her, eh?
That’s the reason I implant as many memorable stories in her mind before I even bother getting her number to have a higher compliance follow-up.
Now I know some people will argue with me and say I should just go for her number anyway.
Of course it is a number’s game; the more numbers you collect, the more girls you get to hang out, but wouldn’t you rather have solid numbers with a high compliance follow-up rate than numbers that clog your phone (That’s like still investing in a stock, while there are signs you know is plummeting)?
You want to strive for qualitative quantity.
Here in this case based on my past experience, meeting a woman in nightclub and only talking to her for a few minutes, will result in a 0% compliance follow-up.
That’s why you want to optimize those compliance follow-up percentages during the approach by making it memorable and unique, like creating a story in the girl’s head.
Do something out of the convention that she wouldn’t see coming to break her pattern to how she usually processes things.
Can you think of things you can do to make yourself memorable to skyrocket your compliance follow-up rate?
Instant spontaneous dates are ideal. Take her to the coffee shop next door. Go grocery shopping. Go browsing in the local pharmacy. (Though this might not always go as she could be in a hurry.)
Ask her to help you out or something, like for directions, browsing for something, or whatever, but be sure she has that firm story implanted in her mind about you. (Asking for help is probably the easiest and safest rout to to go.)
When approaching a girl on the street or store, I would do some ballroom dancing with her on the spot in public (even though I’m a horrible dancer as they come :) ). That is definitely out of the ordinary and gets her to remember me.
Stalling for time to keep the interaction going with her.
Do as many different activities as possible in the amount of time allowed. Walk with her to to different locations, and if you guys stumble upon some theatrical, attention-grabbers like an accident, show, etc, savor those incidents with her and enjoy them to develop a stronger story for her to have in her mind.
I know these probably applied mostly to day game, meeting women during the day and on the streets, but the basic premise of implanting a story in her mind still applies everywhere, as I said before in nightclub girls there are lots of distractions so I won’t be as prominent after the night is over unless I kissed her. The kissing is an implanted story that will add another point to the compliance follow-up rate that I made it to a further base.
Don’t become another stranger that approaches her and chats with her for a few minutes and go for a number. That will be like the way the girl feels when receiving unsolicited flyers on the street, which is you being the flyer. Your compliance follow-up rate will be marginal. Even if you do manage to get her real number, we want to maintain those compliance follow-up rate high, so to get her to meet up with you and start building a connection.
You want solid numbers? Well that’s how you do it, implant the story to build instant connection. Establish as much stories of you 2 in her head to have stronger numbers and post-meetups.
I’ll dwell more into this concept of implanting story and how you can apply it not just for meeting women but to all kinds of social situation to build instant connection with anybody, and I’ll give you more examples and some specific of mine.
Gabriel Angelo runs http://www.socialnatural.com, with the unique approach to dating and meeting women, by focusing on developing your “social skills” to be the most socially savvy person you can be, not just with women…but everybody. Although the arts are primarily related to dating and attracting women, they can be applied to other aspects of your life from social, dating, personal, and even professional.
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