Meaningful Relationships
This is my story allowing for a deeper understanding of meaningful relationships. This is your story, as you trace your roots of dating ideas and the dating scene. And this is the story of millions plus, who make up the dating world. As we pause and reflect for a moment, on where human existence resides, and what problems presents themselves when social contact is attempted, we realize that the issues are the same. We all face challenges and seek relationships advice to accomplish those casual relationships that are all so important to our existence.
The one you thought you knew (yourself) is now presented in a different light. Social contact has surfaced as a stressful and complicated no-win situation. Your first attempts at casual relationships were “child’s play”, and were centered on the human developmental stage (infant) where you were granted your demands without much effort. As you advanced beyond this developmental stage, those strategic relationships became more challenging and the methods utilized began to change. To get what you needed, or wanted, was not so easy anymore. Your messages became mixed and misunderstood. Significant abilities and personal time was being spent in convincing others to form collaborative relationships, so that your reality could become real. As you became more advance in the human developmental growth stage, your failed attempts to create lasting relationships lagged behind your serious need for social contact of a positive value.
The senses we were provided with as human beings became active at an early stage of our developmental process. They opened up a world so huge that they overwhelmed our abilities to successfully store the information in a logically understood and easily retrievable means. Fragmented messages surfaced throughout any attempts to conduct social contact. When both sides of the equation are confronted with this problem, then it’s easy to understand why the art of communication is just that, an art.
I was very fortunate to have been given many opportunities to witness this art in progress. It was truly amazing, for one so young, from under five years of age, to experience the wonders of social contact. I waited patiently throughout the day, for the time when they (my relatives) would gather on the porch, their stumping grounds, and began to vividly describe their lifetime experiences. I maintained my distance, with respect as required, sitting quietly under the porch enjoying the overwhelming impulses that shot through me with every thunderous outburst from the enthusiastic group. They told their stories with humor and acceptance. The good and bad received the same respect, and were only allowed to enter the current time because of its relevance to what was being communicated.
As I developed throughout the years, I was allowed to move closer, such as sitting on the bottom steps of the porch, making myself available as an errand person, when the need would arise, to retrieve an item of pleaser for one or more of the group members. They were a very close group, with social contact issues with one another, but hereditary influences allowed for term relationships and the entire list of relationships to become active, when required. I became aware of their conversations content long before I understood the context. Their conversations regarding romantic relationships, and how they were conceived through dating ideas intrigued me beyond my current means. I listened with the intent of wanting to be just like them. I admired their sense of acceptance of failure and success. Their emphasis on all their relationships as being meaningful relationships “struck a chord” and formed the basis for another schema that would be placed in my memory for later recall. Nothing could be more inspiring then the love they exhibited for positive relationships.
This knowledgeable group of males and females were providing me with the keys to unlock the dating secrets of the dating world. I was provided with the behavioral characteristics of both genders, when their experiences of creating relationships were made known. They did not hold back the positive or negative reactions they experienced. At times I became embarrassed by their descriptive narratives, and blushed secretly as I hid my reactions from their awareness, to avoid the harmless ridicule that would follow. I used and practiced their freely given knowledge with eager anticipation, practicing loyally on those within my own age group. I wanted everyone I came in contact with to love me and for me to love them in return. Then, one day, at the age of six years and eight months, a game changing event of a drastic proportion crossed my path and closed my development toward the achievement of master status, in the area of social contact, for a decade and a half. I entered an area of darkness, to remain until the elements could be successfully overcome. I had no one to turn to for help, and I made the decision to shut down a portion of my understanding of the purpose of meaningful relationships.
A lover of life, specializing in the final trade of interest, psychology. What a relief to know that there is no single answer for the problems we encounter. For if there were, what would life be like? There certainly would be no challenging situations for our complicated minds to remain functional. Do you want a challenge? Come visit my home.
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