What do I do now, I want my ex back
You know the feeling… it’s like a hole has been torn through your stomach and someone has ripped out the most delicate part of your being… It’s there all the time. That empty, depressing, hopeless, nauseating feeling that ceaselessly shades every aspect of your life from the time it starts.
The Break Up!
Like John Mayer wrote in one of his brilliant songs “…when you’re dreaming with a broken heart, the waking up is the hardest part, you fall out of bed, and down on your knees, and for a moment you can hardly breathe…” The feeling is depressing!
Then you go a little insane. You know the symptoms. The endless stream of text messages, the constant emails, calling your ex several times a day, always looking at your emails or text messages to see whether they have had a change of heart… you’re feeling so depressed and possibly even debating as to why they left you, that it requires you to leave the radio off because every track makes you remember them and, as well as a major loss of desire to eat, you also have the problem of bingeing on food and drinking to contend with until it finally ends in the drunk phone call (those few drinks were supposed to make you not think about them…) where you might even plead with them to take you back.
Now while not everyone does all these things and has all these feelings the fact still remains that for the majority of people experiencing a separation with their partner will have at least some of these symptoms to contend with.
Let me enlighten you, at this stage you need something more than an apology and the commitment that you will change (even if it wasn’t your fault) to win them back. What you need is something which is going to make them think about their decision and begin to show interest in a reunion, in other words, something to give you your power back.
Now even if you have been acting like a nutter and have done most (if not all) of the above stalker tactics , it is still not too late to get back some of that lost ground and alter the situation. So instead of going down the road of more degrading behaviour, take a deep breath and in a relaxed manner, get them some spark which is going to reinflame their want.
The first step should be to write them a short letter telling them that although you have been acting a little crazy, you have now come to your senses and that now you have thought about it, you now endorse the break up. You even thought about it yourself from time to time before it actually happened. Don’t forget that one of the most endearing and unmistakeable traits of human beings, is that they always crave what they can’t have!
What you need at this stage is some pretty unconventional approaches and this is just the first of them. This is part of the overall reconnection approach which is essential to getting back together. Imagine… being able to enjoy music again, not to mention enjoying food, resting happily again and being back in a healthy loving relationship with a future…
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