What To Do When You Can Not Stand Being Single
Many of us have been there in our lives. We don’t want to be alone in our lives and when we are single we become desperate to find someone, anyone, to fill that void.
The problem with this is that we end up filing that single void with people who are not compatible with us or who cause us more pain than happiness. That’s the downside of accepting just any old person into our lives.
Picking a partner should not be about randomly choosing the first person who shows us interest. It should be about picking someone who compliments us and makes us happy. When you are unable to be single in life then you feel as though you don’t have time for the ‘interview’ process that takes place in finding the perfect mate, but you NEED to partake in this process to ensure you don’t end up single again in a few weeks or months.
So here are two tips to help you be single and patient so that you can find that perfect relationship instead of that ‘special someone’ who turns out to be another loser.
Accept That Being Single is Not a Jail Sentence
Being single may feel like you are alone and cause an anxious need to fill that void, but in truth you are not going to be alone forever. In fact, you should enjoy this period of your life because it’s the one time that you get to really explore yourself without another person’s beliefs and needs in the way.
When you are in a relationship you don’t get to focus 100% attention on yourself. You have to divide your attention between your individual self and your relationship. You will surely miss the complete attention on yourself once you realize how enlightening it can be.
Being single means you get to focus on becoming the person you want to be. You can be honest about your likes and dislikes and literally do what you want to do. Want to attend that jazz class? No problem! There is no one else’s time schedule holding you back from taking that class when you want to.
Once you start to focus on yourself you will realize that you deserve someone who fits into your desires and beliefs in life. You will also be more likely to find that perfect guy or girl with the same interests at your jazz class. Sitting on your couch waiting for Mr. or Mrs. Right on the other hand will not present that perfect mate.
Explore Dating Without Commitment
You don’t have to jump into a relationship with every single person you meet. You can test the waters, date a few people, and feel as though your sexy self is really sought after.
Going out on dates as opposed to dating one person will allow you to enjoy your single-hood while feeling as though you are not alone. There will always be someone who will want to go on a date with you or get together with you. And if you find Mr. or Mrs. Perfect in that mix than great! But the point is you don’t have to get into a relationship just because you went on a date. You get the benefits of both worlds without feeling that void.
Remember that being single is not a permanent thing. There is no rush to get into a relationship. It’s not like if you wait a week longer then you will never be in a relationship again! The truth is that patience pays off when it comes to relationships. Jumping into a relationship with anyone who comes along will more likely end in heartache.
Bellaisa is the owner of the Relationship Circle, a website with relationship advice for men and women on dating, intimacy, and relationship issues.
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