Are You Dating Someone Who Is a Bad Influence For Your Life?
Relationships should be about support, love, and helping you become a better person. They should not make you feel bad about yourself or stop you from becoming a better person. A partner who is a bad influence in your life will not allow you to become a well-rounded individual as you grow but instead make you feel bad for doing so.
Examples of a partner who is a bad influence is someone who:
Doesn’t encourage your personal growth – If you find that your partner doesn`t support your new beliefs that make you happy then they may just stunt you from truly discovering your full potential as a person. For instance if they think that you becoming more compassionate is a stupid idea because you will get walked all over then you may be less likely to work on becoming more compassionate. A good influence would encourage you to see where that path leads you.
Doesn’t encourage your mental growth – If your partner doesn`t encourage you to learn the things you want to learn, and stops you from achieving success in anyway, then they are not a good influence on your life. Your partner should be encouraging you to achieve whatever you want to achieve, and they should believe in your potential to do so.
Doesn’t encourage family relationships – If your partner is not allowing you to see your family as much as you would like then they are a bad influence. Even if they don`t like your family they shouldn’t stand in the way of your bond with them. They are your family!
Doesn’t encourage friend relationships – If your partner doesn`t want you to spend time with your friends, for whatever reason, then they are not allowing you to have a very important part of your life. Friends encourage, support, and guide you in life, and it`s essential to spend some time with good friends to just be yourself.
Doesn’t support opportunities for you – If you get a promotion that requires you to travel a few days a week, and your partner doesn`t want you to go or makes you feel bad for going, then they are causing you to have conflicting feelings about what could be a great opportunity. Again, your partner should support any opportunities you get to further your career or personal growth.
Should You Stay With a Bad Influence?
A person who is a bad influence on your life may cause you to not achieve the things you want in life. Life is too short to waste on missed opportunities. It is also too short to avoid personal, spiritual, and career growth that can lead to a more fulfilling and happy life. If your partner is standing in the way of your achieving this outcome, and they won’t budge, then you may not want to be with that person for life.
But if you can handle living your life according to how someone else thinks you should be living it, and you don’t have aspirations and goals that they are not letting you reach, and you do not want to nurture the relationships that they are not letting you look after, then you may be perfectly fine in a relationship with a bad influence.
You can tell where I stand on this issue right? I think that if someone is continuously holding you back from becoming the best you can be in life then they are not an ideal partner in a relationship. Anyone who disagrees probably views life as unfair and that not achieving happiness in life is just the way it is, or as though life is something of a sacrifice. I see life as a land of exciting opportunities and growth that can be reached, and better spent, when you are with someone who supports you and your growth. How do you see it?
Bellaisa if the owner of the Relationship Circle, a website with relationship advice for women and men on dating, intimacy, and relationship problems.
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