the truth about how to deal with a toddler
Having an obstinate or a very a “spirited” daughter can be very formidable for mothers. Commonly all children are very energetic and full of energy. But if your child is the one who can climb to the top of a cabinet or fridge then certainly he is a “spirited” daughter. Here are some tips to support you communicate with hardheaded and spirited little ones
Don’t Surprise Him
All toddlers become very restless when they are told something that has to be done right away. For example you are in park with him and when it’s time to leave the park and you assert him so, he starts throwing a tantrum and is not at all willing to leave. The better manner to do this would be to start saying him at least half an hour prior to that we will be leaving in half an hour and keep reminding him this every 5 minutes.
Be Strict
If you warn your daughter of a consequence, you better see to it that you implement it if needed. Remember obstinate kids always try their best to get the maximum out of the activity that they are enjoying. They possess a habit of always ignoring the initial no or stop command. So if you are not strict in enforcing what you have told him earlier he will know that by not stopping what he is doing, he will get to enjoy it more without any consequence.
Let him be independent
Spirited children want to always do chores on their own. They would express “I do” for all chores of theirs. So things in your home need to be toddler friendly so as your child can do things on his own. For example have a small closet for him where his items are only kept. keep small plastic glass for him, etc. chores that he does will be messier but trust me this would be worth it.
avert his fervor
Diverting his power to activities that are physically exhausting helps in soothing your toddler. Let him do finger printing, clay modeling, hand painting, get trampoline for him for jumping, take him to a beach to play with the sand.
Logical reasoning doesn’t help
Keep in mind he is not a mature adult yet. They way a son thinks is very different than your thinking process. So he doesn’t understand logical thinking and verbal reasoning. In fact this irritates him more.
Praise Him often
Whenever your toddler does something that you appreciate or whenever he does something that you want him to do, praise him right away. He should understand that good habits gets him praise and bad nature gets him a demeaning.
Be Positive
Instead of calling him names like “stubborn child”, “wild cat”, “bad boy” and “irritating child”, call him with adjectives that you would want him to be like “good boy”, active child”, “obedient child”. Trust me over the period of time he will try his best to be what you have been calling him.
Pamper Yourself
Yes you heard it right. You need break for yourself. Go out and get a massage, go out with your friends alone, leave your child with your partner or baby sitter for few time. Trust me your kid will benefit lot from a revitalized parent.
Resources
There are many books and audio courses available on the internet, which are really useful. Since you have tried all the tactics you knew, so why not take few advice from an expert. Check out the website given below to learn how to communicate with your toddler.
Mike is a parent. His articles are based on his personal experience. He is also the owner of the site parenting-website.com where he offers FREE e-books on various Parenting issues written by top writers who are experts in the parenting field. On this site he also reviews top selling parenting products that will help you raise your children in the right way. Visit parenting-website.com to download these free e-books and see which product suits your children the best.
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