Selfishness
Selfishness is a destructive force in any relationship, but more so in marriage because of the increased amount of time spent together. Selfishness focuses on oneself. It focuses on self-gratification. It focuses on putting one’s own needs above those of everybody else. It focuses only on pleasing oneself. It focuses on always being right, whatever the cost.
A selfish partner negatively dominates the relationship. A complete denial of feelings for your partner, who is supposed to be your ‘better half’ is nothing but serious selfishness in a relationship. A sudden and unexplained change in the behavior of the partner is the first signal to some problems. A behavioral change can be due to various factors, like stress or job pressures, but it doesn’t mean that the person is not responding to your queries and questions. When both partners are unable to communicate their desires and expectations to each other, it opens the gateway for negative traits like frustration and anger to enter the relationship. Trusting a partner is something that is vital for every relationship.
You need to understand the relationship problems caused by selfishness to truly appreciate how destructive selfishness can be. It says to the other person ‘you don’t matter’. It says ‘you are not important’. It says ‘you are a second-class citizen’. It says ‘you have no say in the relationship’. It also means the selfish one will at some point find themselves alone with no one to love.
Selfishness is often driven by a lack of trust or confidence that anyone else will be truly concerned with our interests. But loving partners do look out for each other’s needs. The more you demonstrate this willingness to your partner, the more likely he or she is to reciprocate. Selfishness can cause us to treat our significant other like an outsider or an intruder: We rebuff our partner’s presence; we disregard his/her needs.
Remember, if you want to be loved unconditionally, then you must be able to love unconditionally in return.
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