How Trust is Important in Relationships
For relationships to succeed, trust is extremely important. Without it, most couples will simply not work. At the start of the relationship, trust will take some time to build up and it can take longer if someone has been hurt in the past. However, there are ways to help build the trust quicker and help the relationship succeed.
Trusting the Little Things
Like with anything, when starting out in relationships (parforhold problemer as we call them in Danish) the little things count. This is especially the case with trust. Both partners need to be able to trust the small things to be able to trust the bigger things. What do the little things mean? This is not about trusting not to cheat; this is about trusting to turn up for a date on time or to return a phone call when you say that you will. If you break the trust on these smaller things, why should your partner trust you on the bigger things?
Keeping Secrets and Not Gossiping
Partners should be able to tell each other anything in confidence; there should be no worry about the information getting around friends. This is a major thing when it comes to trust and someone may not be willing to open up so much if this trust has been broken in the past. If you gossip regularly than building this type of trust will be extremely hard – your partner will wonder whether you can keep their information a secret.
This is the only way that partners are willing to share all the personal details in relationships, and those personal details are important to be able to continue with the partnership. However, this is a two-way street. If you want your partner to open up, you will need to do the same; this shows that you are willing to trust your partner too.
Apologizing When Mistakes Are Made
If you cannot admit to making a mistake then your partner will struggle to trust you in the future. You need to take responsibility for your actions, whether that is breaking something valuable or owning up to mistake that you made. Doing this will help your partner trust you to tell the truth in the future and helps relationships build; if you try to hide something, then your partner will wonder whether he or she can trust you in the future.
This form of trust is what helps a partner trust that he or she will not be cheated on. If you can own up to your mistakes and admit when you have done something wrong, you will be able to admit if you have done something to hurt the other partner. This is very important in any relationship.
Take your time to build the trust at the start of your relationships. This is the foundation of your life together and is one of the most important aspects. With trust, other aspects are able to build such as love and devotion but without it, the relationship will fail at some point in the future. If you don’t know where to start with building trust after this article, perhaps it’s time to find a family counselor (in Denmark those are called find familierådgivning) and ask him or her some questions.
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