How to Prevent Quarrels
It is normal in a family to have misunderstandings, but through proper communication this can be prevented from happening. A fight or a quarrel can completely alter the harmony at home and this should be avoided at all times. In the event that a child always see his parents fight, this could cause the child to think that it is a normal behavior and may do it with other kids as well. Some quotes about quarrels suggest that we have to be open minded and more accepting to prevent it, here is a sample:
Two things, well considered, would prevent many quarrels: first, to have it well ascertained whether we are not disputing about terms, rather than things; and, secondly, to examine whether that on which we differ is worth contending about.
Sometimes, people fight over the smallest things, and when we think about it, it was not worth all the painful words we have said to the person we are fighting with. Fights or quarrels turn ugly and these should be prevented to maintain the happiness of family members specially if there are children in the family. Here are some tips to prevent quarrels at home.
1. Compose your self – when you are angry, take a breather. Control your emotions and assess the situation. Is it worth the fight? Can you just talk it over calmly?
2. Watch your words – When you talk to a family member or even friends and strangers, use words that will not offend anyone. Before saying anything, ask your self how would you feel if someone tells you the same thing in the exact words. If you have blurted an offending statement, explain it deeper, make it sound more reasonable and apologize if you have to.
3. Talk it Over – If someone hurt you or offended you talk to the person and ask why he did what he did. Do not shout or raise your voice, remain calm. If you don’t like what you hear, politely excuse yourself and take deep breaths.
4. Do not believe everything you hear – Usually, fights starts with misunderstandings brought by rumors and gossips. Before reacting to anything, verify the information at hand and make good plans on how to resolve the problem properly. Do not react by saying bad things, this will only make you look too much affected. Talk to the person directly and ask why he did what he did.
5. Avoid – If you can’t take it anymore, avoid the person for the meantime, it is best to react this way than say bad things that can hurt the other person involved. Seek guidance from your parents or a close friends. You may want to vent out for sometime. Sooner or later, you will have to face the situation but be kind and act in a more forgiving way.
When you talk to the other person involved, make an agreement and honor that agreement. Several quotes about agreements states that we are to honor all agreements that we take.
If something is wrong, fix it if you can. But train yourself not to worry. Worry never fixes anything.
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