How To Handle It When Friends Ignore Your Feelings
Every person has different needs as far as their personal friendships and feelings are concerned. People who are project oriented will generally have less time for friends than people who are socially driven. So, before you begin to make assumptions about a person, think of who they really are as a person. Are they social butterflies or are they more the “taking care of business” type? It’s not fair to assume something about someone if they’re just being who they are.
Assess Your Need For Personal Involvement
This is one of the first things you should do to put things in perspective healthily. Every person has different personality traits that come down to their very DNA. It’s their genetic disposition that determines their need for emotional involvement.
When you feel like you’re being ignored by someone, then chances are they are getting their emotional support from someone else. Don’t take it so personally, as people tend to migrate to people that are the best match for them as a person. So when you’re friend is tending to make less and less time for you, just remember that they’re doing what they feel is right for them. If you care about them as a person, you’ll understand and be respectful of this.
Social Get Together
At social events is often times where real feelings and emotions come to the surface. Because someone can be seen and heard by everyone in a room, they are more inclined to be open and honest about how they really feel about people.
What happens, often times, is that people get into a habit of using people for their personal gain. Once you no longer serve certain people a purpose in their life, they will no longer give you the false hope of respecting you, they will just move on to their next victim.
Don’t take this personally, ever. These types of people don’t change their behaviors, they are simply a product of their environment. They handle social situations in the way that works for them. This means that looking at a social gathering logically, they are trying to pursue their own best interests. You can’t hold them guilty of anything except self preservation, which is not always a bad thing in life.
Value Yourself And Things Will Improve
Each one of us has special attributes that make us special. Certain characteristics of ourselves make us valuable to others. Recognize what these values are in yourself and use them to your advantage. An example of differences that make us unique is two people eating at the same restaurant. Just because two people like the food at a particular restaurant, doesn’t mean that they’ll like the same meals. It’s these differences and many others that give us value in life.
Value the unique attributes that make you who you are and try to find people that compliment your interests and bring you to a higher level of being. If you really love who you are and want to be respected and admired by all, then show everyone kindness, encouragement, and respect whenever possible. You never know! The good qualities that you impress upon others could help to make the world we live in a better place.
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