A Few Things To Bear In Mind When Making It Through Infidelity In Marriage
Will your spouse’s unfaithfulness put an end to the marriage? At present only you can answer that question. The reason that it is up to you to make the final decision is due to the fact your spouse has given every indication that they want to remain in the relationship. They confess to cheating and have begged for your forgiveness. They vow to do whatever it takes to rebuild the relationship.
Regardless of whether you remain with them or not is your call but even with that decision in the balance there are a few things to bear in mind.
1. Don’t Freak out
The future can be scary. It can be particular scary if you have been married for some time and make the decision to go it alone after infidelity. Do not let fear influence whether you should stay or go. You are connected to your spouse in many ways but that does not mean complete and utter dependence. If you want to end the marriage then do it. Better to learn self-sufficiency than to be stuck in a relationship where you feel like you can never trust your spouse again.
2. Don’t Back Off
In the event you decide to remain in the relationship then establish some guidelines and stick to them. Your spouse may get angry over these parameters and attempt to do away with them. It is up to them to make dramatic lifestyle changes in order to prove you can trust them again. There will be moments when their attitude and effort will be severely lacking. There could also be instances when they try to manipulate you and thereby taking control or the realtionship. No matter what they try it is critical that you do not back down.
3. Be Realistic
Getting over your spouse’s infidelity is not going to happen overnight so don’t let impatience get the better of you. Of course you wish the depressing thoughts and images would go away forever. You also want the fear that comes up every time your mate is out of sight to disappear. They will eventually but right now you must accept the fact that the road ahead is long and difficult.
4. Be Encouraging
When you see your mate making a determined and sustained effort to fix the relationship and earning your trust back once again then cheer on their efforts. Try to rekindle the romance by doing things like having date nights. From time to time let them know through words and actions just how much you still love them. This can do a world of good in making them feel better as well as trying harder. It can also boost your own morale considerably.
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