On Thailand Bar Girls and Marriage
Thailand is a magical place for both tourists, expats and retirees. I have yet to meet someone who have been to Thailand, who didn’t like it there. In fact, most people I know would like to go back again as soon as possible. A lot of guys from America, UK or elsewhere work in Thailand or have retired in Thailand. Naturally, most of them are or have been in a relationship with a Thai girl. Many have had bad experiences. In most cases this could have been avoided with knowing a little more about Thai culture and society before entering into a serious relationship.
I am not talking about the stuff you can read in travel books like no kissing in public, but about what expectations Thais have to foreigners and how they view interracial relationships.
First of all, there’s no point in generalizing, Thai women are not the same as isn’t foreign men in Thailand. Yet, most foreign men seem to end up with uneducated Thai women from the particular province of Isaan. This isn’t wrong in any way of course, but I think many foreigners do not really understand how very different life in rural Thailand is compared to their cushy, wellfare states.
Village life does entail waking up at dawn and then working in the field for 12 hours straight simply to put food on the table. If you don’t work in farming, then most will work in menial labor intensive jobs for low pay. Those who get an education will still face an invisible wall in climbing the social ladder. Thailand is in many ways a feudal society and social mobility is low to non existant.
Take a walk down any street in Thailand; do you notice at least one girl sending you a shy look, maybe a smile? Maybe you don’t, cause we as Westerners are not in tune with the subtle signals Thai women send to men they are interested in. Don’t expect a ‘good’ Thai girl to make the first step.
That’s why I generally tell my friend to try Thai dating sites first..
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