The Secrets to Social Skills Mastery
The way I define a “social natural” is an efficient social calibrator, in other words he has plenty of social experiences under his belt and with those experiences, make him an extremely efficient socializer, almost like he has a sixth-sense for social dynamic interaction to pick up other people’s emotions without them ever revealing it and be able to foretell and have the ideal thing to say at the right time.
That is how you get to “natural game”.
Impeccable natural game is unconscious competence of the things you do, but to get there you have to have some sorts of constructed model to know how to get there and do…to be an unconscious natural.
For most people coming from an inexperienced place of not knowing what to do in social situation like approaching and interacting with girls, routines are guidelines to social calibration. They provide you a practical idea of the frame to interact with, without it, you will just be all over the place (social miscalibration).
If you look top pickup artists who are natural now, had some kind of structures to help them to help them figure out what the ideal interaction looks like (like Mystery, etc.)
You do not get good at social calibration overnight. It requires a lot of practice, even if you become good at a certain aspect of it, doesn’t mean you will have that same level of performance at another.
What I mean by this is you might start picking up women consistently at a bar but for a night club, you will have to fine-tune and adjust your social calibration accordingly.
I know lots of guys who are particularly good with the bar scene, but they wouldn’t dare go into a night club when the entire game changes and the performance for that setting are not perfectly calibrated yet, even if the skill sets seem the same.
Similar to putting a piece of puzzles together, even if the side-shapes are identical, the sizes and edge can’t be any different measurement in order to fit perfectly.
A number of folks prefer the daytime location because they are better calibrated in their skill sets of picking up women during the daytime but not into picking up women at night because their social calibration levels are completely way off.
Now take a guy, for example, who has been part of a large corporation like forever will have almost impeccable social calibration skills and developed almost like a sixth-sense antenna as a result of having been exposed constantly to the culture, environment, atmosphere, people, etc; now place them unfamiliarly to a bar, and then seelive up to their same old social efficiency.
Mastering social calibration is learning to adapt.
Experiment with the world as your giant social laboratory.
Gabriel Angelo runs http://www.socialnatural.com, with the unique approach to dating and meeting women, by focusing on developing your “social skills” to be the most socially savvy person you can be, not just with women…but everybody. Although the arts are primarily related to dating and attracting women, they can be applied to other aspects of your life from social, dating, personal, and even professional.
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