SOS — Tips on Getting Over a Break Up
Break ups are the worst. You feel worse than you ever thought possible because life as you’ve known it prior to the break-up gets turned all upside down, and most probably you are not quite positive which side is up right now. Since I do understand how painful breaking apart can be, there are a few things you can do to help transition back into at the very least a semblance of “normal” life.
You — yes, you — are a survivor. You will not stay trapped in the past, since you’ll be shifting yourself forward.
For the initial few weeks, it would be best if you don’t go to the locales the 2 of you preferred, and don’t attempt to hang out with mutual friends. You may pick up these old relationships later, however for now, zero in on things you know make you feel good that shouldn’t have a connection to him/her. Also, avoid people who will just want to gossip about your ex, or feed you rumors about them.
Obviously, keep away from any kind of contact with your ex. No communicating in any respect, no text messaging, no checking their facebook page, blogs, twitter accounts, emails, cellphone calls, with your ex or with anyone close to them (siblings, best friends, co-workers, etc.). Put aside any reminders of them. Photographs, postcards, birthday cards, notes, etc., old romantic songs, or music you each liked and listened to together. Do not watch films that may make you feel worse, such as overly romantic movies that may only serve to remind you of what you’ve lost, or films that can make you reminisce about old times or ask yourself, “what if?” Generally speaking, try to steer clear of depressing entertainment and as a substitute go for upbeat, positive, cheerful options.
Have you ever heard folks say, “Laughter is the best medicine?” Well now that you are broken up, you need some laughter in your day to put your life back on the mend. Search for films or television shows that’ll make you laugh. Go out with a true buddy who has a fantastic sense of humor and can tell you humorous tales to get your mind off the break up. Laugh a lot, and laugh often, at even the silliest little things!
If you have trouble coming up with one thing to give your attention to, take some time to think about the kinds of things you loved before you began your relationship. Did you have an interest you have kind of let go? Was there something you had been keen about before you and he or she met? Really give it some thought, roll up your sleeves, and begin to do these things.
Is there one thing in your home that needs attention? Was there a task that you just had put off doing or were procrastinating about? The more involved you become in doing things that make you feel good, the better you will feel. In time (faster than you think) you’ll call on those friends you and your ex both loved spending time with, and even face-to-face encounters with your ex shall be easier to handle.
Bottom line is, focus on making yourself really feel better and get back your self-esteem, and then some. Start a self-improvement class, learn a new craft, resurrect your outdated video games, join a fitness center, go on a shopping spree, or try your hand at cooking or baking new foods. Simply keep in mind to place your give attention to doing things that make you feel fulfilled, and you’ll beat those break-up blues in no time!
When it comes to relationships, Jamie London has seen it all. Now Jamie helps others who are in the midst of getting over a break up or trying to answer the question, “Is my relationship over?” – with sound relationship break up advice, at www.RelationshipProductGuide.com.
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