Your Child Has Learned To Lie? Here Are A Few Practical Suggestions – part II
At a certain stage the period of imagination ends for the child and he enters the real world as we all do. This is the stage in which lies of a different nature begin. If the child perceives and exists in the real world as everyone, and he wants to distort something he feels and understands- this is called lying.
A good tendency.
Firstly one needs to understand that there are people who , by their nature, tend to lie more than others. In addition we need to understand that alongside this, we try to teach our children that “nothing stands in the way of desire” and through strong desire we can “attract” to ourselves anything we desire. By this we actually allow “place” for such lies or imagination. This is because when the child lies, he is actually expressing a desire to change the reality in which he exists. So it is worthwhile to understand, that at the root of the lie there is something good. At it’s root is the tendency of all of us to change a thing to a good thing, and so we cannot say in advance that this is an invalid tendency.
Lies have no grounding.
Explain to the child the difference between lies that come from a good desire and imagination and those lies that we should distance ourselves from because they cause harm to others or to oneself. In addition, try to accurately show himthat through the situation in which he finds himself-he is expressing a longing for good. On the other hand , clarify that lies have no grounding-that despite the fact that it is the individual who creates the lie and his world, it is actually impossible to change a thing through lying.
Give examples.
When the child has succeeded in seeing his situation(lie or imagination), explain to him that he can check himself-by himself, exactly where he is, in order not to confuse the two. In addition, give him an example of a bad lie and explain that where bad lies are discovered, they are revealed to all. It is even desirable that the child fear such a situation-so that it will not happen again.
A natural phenomenon.
In conclusion, explain to the child in such a way that he will feel that this phenomenon does not depend on him, that it is a phenomnon that occurs throughout the world, especially to children of his age. Explain that many of his peer group find themselves in this situation at some stage in their lives, and that everybody receives a negative response from the society that surrounds them. We need to explain it as some kind of worldwide phenomenon that is part of his age, that it is completely natural, and so we, as parents who love him, want to warn him that many children of his age have been stuck in this situation- and have suffered. Finally disclose that-yes- that even mom and dad experienced this when they were children, and learned how to overcome it. When the child views it as completely natural, he will relate to it naturally and will allow the situation to pass on its own. Good luck!
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