How to Let Go of Wanting Love and Approval With the Sedona Method Part 2
How can I regain the love I have lost in my relationship?
If you’ve ever been in a romantic relationship, you probably experienced what most people call the “honeymoon phase.” Unless your relationship is brand-new, the kind of love, caring, and enjoyment that you experienced during that phase is probably only a memory by now.
So, what’s the difference between what you may be longingly looking back to as your honeymoon and what you are experiencing now?
Simple: in the beginning of the relationship, you loved and accepted your partner as your partner was. You may even have loved your partner because he or she was a certain way, even if that way or those certain qualities now drives you crazy.
Where a relationship can sour is at a point when your partner says or does something, or behaves in a particular way that you inwardly refuse to accept. You then start resisting that particular behavior or trait, while at the same time expecting the person to exhibit it again.
We start these informal internal lists of the things we want to change or resist about our partner, and then we start comparing everything they do to that internal list. If it matches, we add an inner check mark and resist it even more. Once we start this list, we are also constantly looking for items to add to it. This whole process usually spirals out of control and ends in separation, divorce, or in simply putting up with a relationship that is no longer supportive of both partners.
There is a simple way to break this pattern and extend your honeymoon for the rest of your lives.
First of all, burn your list. Unless you’re determined to destroy your current relationship, continuing to add to and tweak your list is merely asking for trouble.
Get into the habit of looking for what you can love and appreciate about your partner, rather than how they need to change or be fixed, and it will change the whole dynamic of your relationship.
This is not a substitute for loving communication about things that your partner does that you would prefer he or she not do. Nor is it an excuse to allow your partner or you to continue indulging in obviously destructive behaviors. It is merely a way to start to tip the balance back to the way it was when you were enjoying your honeymoon.
we all tend to create inner lists of what our partner has done wrong or has done to offend us. We then expect our partner to keep making the same mistake, and we, of course, get to be right when they do it again. After a while, it becomes more important to us to cling to the false security of being right than to nurture the love that attracted our partner to us in the first place.
The Sedona Method will help you to pursue the relationship you desire, to create the fun, satisfying relationship you deserve. You will no longer be stopped by the fear and anxiety you may now feel when you think about approaching someone to whom you are really attracted. As you use The Sedona Method, you will find over time that all areas of your life radically improve, and you will find yourself easily uncovering your true, positive self.
Brenda Larson have been studying the Sedona Method for several years with great results. If you would like to discover more about the Sedona Method , head over to http://sedonamethodprogram.com
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