DATING FOR DUMMIES: Tips for Dating Without the Disasters
Let’s face it: dating can be a bit intimidating and sometimes downright humiliating, especially for the ladies. But if you are willing to put yourself out there, here are a few time-tested tips for you—call them “Dating for Dummies” dos and don’ts.
These are tips especially designed to give women a few dots on the map to follow that will help them enjoy the dating process, hold on to their sense of self and identity, and very likely have a great time along the way.
We can’t guarantee you’ll find your soul mate in the first try. After all: that would be genius. But these tips can quite possible help you avoid dating blunders women make most often so that you can avoid unnecessary disappointments and disasters along the way. Remember: dating is like shopping. You are on a quest to find the perfect “fit,” which means trying on a few different sizes, colors and styles before you know what it is you feel best in and what you see yourself wearing again and again.
Dating Mistake #1: Don’t make the first move. Sure, we live in the modern age and, especially with the growth of online dating, it’s easier than ever to approach a guy first. But history and experience tell us that you’ll be setting yourself up for future problems because, like it or not, men are men and they still want to do the asking! Restore the feminine mystique by being a little “unavailable” for him to draw him in. Men like a challenge. It’s as old as time, cave man time, in fact. They hunt, we gather. Don’t take the man out of the man cave and then eliminate the game.
Dating Mistake #2: T.M.I. Alert:. Women who share intimate details of their lives and emotions too soon come across as desperate and neurotic. Recognize that the more you talk about yourself, the less you’ll be listening and observing whether he is right for you. Try to remember that you are not on a date to audition, but to relax and have a good time.
Dating Mistake #3: Accept no late offers: Women need to show men that they have a life filled with lots of friends, deadlines, projects and prospects. When you accept so-called “spontaneous” invitations for the next day or even same evening, you send the message you’ve got nothing going on in your life – or nothing that mportant, since you’re willing to drop everything to accommodate him. Let a man treat you like a fast food drive-thru and that’s how he’ll see you.
Dating Mistake #4: Jumping in Head First: Men fall in love quickly – but they also fall out of love quickly.” Sure, it can be flattering, even exciting, when a man you’ve just met wants to see you several times a week and talk to you for hours on the phone. But unfortunately the result is a white-hot romance that burns brightly and then fizzles out. Take. It. Slooooow; pace the relationships, and don’t let him see you more than once or twice a week and keep phone calls, texts and online chats to a bare minimum.
Dating Mistake #5: Wasting Your ValuableTime. Know what you want – and believe you deserve it. If you want to get married but the guy you’ve been dating for over a year still isn’t sure, set a time limit of how long you’re willing to wait then stick to it. Once D-Day (decision day) arrives, and he’s still waffling, then move on and do not look back (if he’s ever going to know and man up to a proposal, this will be your best – and his last – chance).
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