On Thai girls and Relationship
Thailand is a magical place, the beaches, warm climate, unique culture, great food and beautiful women. It’s easy to see how a visitor in Thailand may think that he has found paradise at last. Every years, thousands and thousands of Western men return home from a holiday in Thailand wanting to return as fast as possible. Many times, the reason for this is a woman, and more often than not it’s a bar girl who has put a spell on him. Sometimes, everything works out and the couple live happily ever after, but in other instances, cultural differences and mistaken expectations lead to nasty breakups. Over the years, I’ve seen many Thai-Farang relationships. Those that lasted were generally not those who began in a bar.
There’s nothing wrong with meeting your Thai sweetheart in a bar, I mean, that happens all the time back home, but I think there are good reasons to be vary before entering into a serious relationship with a ‘bar girl’.
Picture this: A young, attractive girl from the countryside goes to work in a bar. She’s never been out of the village before, let alone met any foreigners. Her daily life probably consisted of working in a rice paddy or falling asleep at some menial and boring job. Then she comes to Bangkok or Pattaya, with her head full of dreams and hopes. What she finds is a place where the neon lights are bright, every day is a party, drinking, sleeping until noon and then starting over.
For a young inexperienced girl anywhere, that kind of lifestyle has to be exciting. So, you see, when she meets you in a bar, is she really looking to settle down with a guy who is often significantly older than her?
Even if she is, is she ready to leave the easy work and big money behind and start working in a 9-5 job again? Leave her new friends and be the perfect stay at home wife? Most likely not.
The bar scene attracts a certain type on both sides of the equation. If you’re looking for a nice Thai woman to settle down with and eventually marry, then I recommend looking elsewhere.
So, if you meet a girl from this situation, try to keep in mind that where you have a lot of choice and likely grew up knowing that there was many options available to you, then a poor Thai girl do not have these options. Her chance of social mobility are quite limited and for many, being married to a foreigner means a much higher standard of living, not only for her but for her family. Speaking of families, the pressure from parents can be quite strong when they find out that she is dating a perceived rich foreigner.
So ask yourself: Am I ready to support my girlfriend/wife?
I believe many guys would be much happier if they tried meeting women from the middle class instead who are not looking for security but rather for experiences and freedom.
The author writes about dating and Muslima.
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